emotional availability, relationships
Bruce Lambert
How to Be More Emotionally Available in a ...

Relationships thrive on genuine connection—on feeling heard, understood, and supported at a deeper level. Yet all too often, we hold back, afraid of vulnerability, or simply unsure how to open up. This pattern of emotional distance is sometimes called “emotional unavailability.” While it can protect us from hurt, it also holds us back from the warmth and intimacy we crave.

How to Be More Emotionally Available in a Relationship
Persuasion
Bruce Lambert
The Theory of Reasoned Action Explained: A ...

Why do we intend to do things but often don’t follow through? Learn how the Theory of Reasoned Action explains this puzzle—and how attitudes, social norms, and perceived obstacles shape your intentions and actions.

The Theory of Reasoned Action Explained: A Simple Guide
relationships
Bruce Lambert
Honesty vs. Politeness: How to Balance Truth ...

When you have something difficult to say, something that might hurt or embarrass the person you're talking to, how should you say it?

Should you come right out and say it, bluntly and honestly?

Or should you be tactful and indirect?

What values should guide us in these situations?

Is honesty the highest value? Or is kindness?

Honesty vs. Politeness: How to Balance Truth with Tact in Communication
relationships
Bruce Lambert
Improve Your Communication Skills: One ...

I want to tell you a story.

In addition to being a college professor, I'm a consultant. The most common kind of training I do, as a consultant, is communication skills training.

I specialize in training health professionals how to talk to patients and families who have been harmed by healthcare.

These are very difficult conversations. We focus a lot on empathic communication skills, which is a topic I've taught a lot about.

I'm going to teach you the single most important step you can take to begin to improve your communication skill.

Improve Your Communication Skills: One Essential Step to Success
persuasion
Bruce Lambert
How to Persuade People Effectively Using the ...

Our own behavior is killing us.

If you look at the top 10 causes of death, you'll see at the top diseases like heart disease, cancer, and stroke, but it's actually our own behavior, smoking, drinking, not exercising, having a poor diet, which lead to the problems.

If you want to change people's behavior, you have to stop giving them information.

Information alone simply isn't persuasive. Most of the time, people already have a lot of the basic information like smoking causes lung cancer, but it doesn't change their behavior.

If you want to actually change people's behavior, you have to put this information into a story.

How to Persuade People Effectively Using the Power of Stories

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5 Habits That Wreck Marriages: What to Avoid

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5 Habits That Wreck Marriages: What to Avoid

I'm going to teach you the five signs that a marriage is almost certain to end in divorce.

One of the keys to a fulfilling and satisfying life is a happy marriage or relationship.

It turns out, of course, that something like half of all marriages end in divorce.

It would really be useful if we could learn some skills that could help us stay married.

I, myself, have been divorced and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. It's a miserable thing for yourself and your family and your children, and it should be avoided at all costs.

But how do we avoid it?

Is there any way of predicting whether the marriage that you're in is headed for divorce, in enough time where you might be able to save it?

Relationship Communication: John Gottman's Repair Attempts

Relationship Communication: John Gottman's Repair Attempts

Have you ever been in an argument with someone you really care about, and in the middle of the argument, you could just feel things falling apart?

You're just thinking,

I wish I could stop this.

I wish I could reverse this.

I don't know what to do, but things are going in the wrong direction fast.

If I don't do something soon, this could damage or destroy the relationship.